Teaching the Attitude of Gratitude

Writing a good old-fashioned thank you note is a great way to teach children an attitude of gratitude. There are many occasions where a handwritten note is not only appropriate but very much appreciated. Teach this valuable social grace to a child and maybe get back into the habit yourself.

Why teach children how to write a thank you note?

• It puts the emphasis on gratitude. It reminds children to focus on the person who gave them the gift rather than the gift itself.

• It reinforces good manners.

• It’s a practical way to show thoughtfulness for the feelings of others.

• It’s a good writing exercise. It allows children to practice their penmanship and writing skills.

• It lays a solid foundation for being appreciative all through their young and adult lives.

With a little planning, you can make writing thank you notes a fun activity for children. Follow these tips and teach the children in your life to appreciate both the gifts they are given and the individuals who have given them.

Help children understand when thank you notes are appropriate:

• For gifts

• When someone goes out of their way to help them

• Dinner at a friend’s house

Put together a stationary supply kit

 Keep stationary and supplies on hand. Designate a special thank you note box and include:

• Note cards

• Pens

• Markers

• Crayons

• Stickers

• Postage stamps

• Address book

Make the notes age-appropriate

For children that are too young to write thank you notes, there are other options that allow them to participate. Young children can dictate their thank you note for you to write, scribble their name or draw a picture. A child who can’t write yet, or one who is just learning, will feel more grateful if she doesn’t have to agonize over spelling.

Help older children clarify their thoughts and emphasize neatness. Use this opportunity to teach them how to correctly address a letter.

RECIPE FOR WRITING A THANK YOU NOTE

The Greeting (Dear)

The Thank You (Thank you for)

The What or Why (how you will use it, why you like it)

The Closing (Sincerely, Love)

Signature (sign your name)

Here’s an example:

Dear Grammy,

It was so nice to see you at my party. Thank you for coming.

I really like the new basketball you gave me.

I can’t wait to get to the park to use it.

Love,

Jimmy

Final Thoughts:

Children learn best when grownups model the very behavior they’d like to see in their kids.

Be willing participate in the process.

Be sure to mail thank you notes in a timely manner.

 

When children practice and show their gratitude, it becomes part of a beautiful journey to a joyful life.